A Single Phrase to Stop a Child’s Tantrum
Oh, those kids! Now they’re happily playing and laughing, and a moment later they’re all set to give you and everyone in a mile’s radius a severe headache.
Bright Side found an effective method for stopping a child’s tantrum and suggests testing it with us.
The reason doesn’t matter. Maybe their favorite toy has broken, or mom’s forbidden eating a tenth candy. Whatever it is, save your breath scolding them. Instead, in a calm and benevolent manner, ask them the right question:
Let’s say your child got upset because a friend of theirs doesn’t want to share a toy with them. Don’t wait until the screams are out of control. Ask your child right away: "Is it a big, a middle-sized, or a small problem?" And when they reply, suggest thinking about the solution together, whatever size the problem might be. Perhaps they’d accept another toy? Or invite the friend to play together? There are so many options!
Children’s psychologists explain there are three basic reasons why this seemingly ordinary question calms kids down:
The child sees we accept and respect their feelings.
The question makes them stop to think and assess the situation.
By asking this question, parents invite the child to try and solve the problem themselves.
Therefore, by asking this question and calmly talking with your little one for a few minutes, you’ll save yourself a lot of time and nerves and will also gain their confidence.